I had a wonderful father’s day, and I certainly hope you did as well. Meghan made a lovely breakfast of bacon, crepes and smoothies. After our breakfast was consumed we played a little game of ‘find the father’s day presents’. Meghan and the kids hid 12 little silicon donut molds. I was so excited to get these! I love donuts and I have been wanting to make them myself for but I could not find a donut pan anywhere! This was a great surprise.
The surprises didn’t end there, as I was poking around looking for donut molds I discovered a copy of Luigi’s Mansion: Dark Moon. As the day went on my enjoyment continued. I enjoy some more favorite foods; a donut burger from Angles Pub and Family Eatery, and a sub from Kaiser’s Subs. In between meals Simeon and I swam at the Sackville Sports Stadium. It was a blast jumping off the diving board and running along the floating platform.
I finished the day playing Mega Bloks: Match and Build with SImeon and Ariella. It was a close game there for a while but Simeon won. Once the house became quiet with everyone in bed I just drank in the feelings of love and appreciation I was given all day. If I had to sum up the way I felt with one word I would say I was, blessed.
At Sackville Baptist we have been looking at the life of Joseph. On Father’s day I got to talk about Jacob blessing Joseph and his sons’. While Jacob wouldn’t win any father of the year awards he knew how important it was to pass a blessing to his son and grandchildren.
Recently the New York Times Room for debate asked the question; What are fathers for? The reason they give for asking the question is this, ‘In almost half the American households with children, mothers are the sole or primary breadwinners…So what is the purpose of men in modern families?’
I don’t want to take anything away from the single moms that are doing great jobs raising their children while holding down a job, or jobs. They are giving so much of themselves. Nor do I disdain women making more money than men. Knowing the likely upper limits of my salary I am hoping one day my wife will make more money than I do.
However my question is this. where have all the fathers gone? Why have so many fathers decided that they can simply skip out on their children? The BBC reported that there are some areas where 75% of children have no meaningful contact with their father! It would be foolish for us to think the same problems are not here as well.
On Father’s day my family made me feel incredibly blessed. I believe it is my joyful duty to like Jacob bless my children. I bless them with my time, attention, approval, protection, guidance and so much more. A lot of dads are getting the message now that it is time to really step up. But it seems like at the same time many have decided they can walk away.
We can’t force people to be good fathers. But we can expand our goal to bless beyond our own families. There are many children out their looking for someone to come along side them and tell them that they matter, that they are valuable. Maybe you are the person they are looking for.
**This post is a much altered version of the sermon I gave at Sackville United Baptist Church on June 16th 2013. You can listen to the full sermon here.**